This year we lost the legendary artist David Bowie who told us: "Time may change me, but I can't trace time." No, we can't trace time. Change, however, large or small is always on the horizon, and its ebbs and flows change us in many ways -- sometimes good, sometimes well...
I've really made it no secret that my life has been in upheaval this year -- losing the j-0-b, the change in hands of the family business -- and I've just been bracing myself and holding on for dear life until it all settles down. It's a learning process, though. And here are a couple things that I'm learning about how to adapt to change.
Life Isn't So Big and Scary if you Learn to Live it Day By Day.
When I first was let go from my job of 20-something years in January I had no idea what would happen to me. What would I do for work? Where would I get healthcare? What would happen to my family? (It was a family business, after all). The truth is, the universe picks us up when we take care of business day-by-day. Each day I ask myself: "What do I need to do to move forward, today?" And the answer usually comes. It took five months, but I received healthcare I could afford. It's been since January, and I've ramped up all my side-jobs to patch together a schedule and a budget I can live with -- it's all going along okay when I take it one day at a time.
Rely on the Things that Bring You Joy.
I always speak of utilizing gifts and talents and this is especially true during times of change. I have relied a lot on my journal and my writing -- I'm even considering adding to my freelance work and (hopefully) penning a new book soon. Your heart will show you the way to go, is my deepest feeling. My writing has always been my go-to source for comfort and direction. It's almost as if I work myself out on the page as I go. We all have amazing talents -- that's what makes shows like "The Voice" and "America's Got Talent" so exciting; people just like you and me can be recognized for their "thing." The trick with gifts -- I've found -- is you have to stay with them. In terms of money -- that's another story. In truth, our gifts owe us nothing even though they beg to be utilized. Often they don't provide the "big score" right away, but I do believe with all my heart that they lead us where we need to go.
Stay Focused -- Stay Positive -- Set New Goals.
I am a dreamer, but I am also realistic. I believe that life happens as it should when we listen to our hearts. I feel strongly about focusing on the day-to-day, but also feel it's important to have a direction by which to steer the ship. I've been spending a lot of time with my goals -- setting out a game plan for my future. What do I want my future to look like? What can I do now to create a success story for later? These are just a few things that I've stopped to think about when I had such a big life-change here in mid-life. If you're facing changes -- I hope these ideas will help you. I've been hit hard in the last year -- but, I can't imagine I'm the only one. Stay strong, be brave. Life happens day-by-day. And as Bowie tells us: just "Turn and face the strange -- gonna have to be a different man."
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