Since I was a child – when I was feeling lost or off-track – my mother always told me, “Bloom where you’re planted.” As a special needs mom, no one understood this adage more that she does. It took me some years to process this thought, however. And now that I’m getting along in time – this has proved wonderful wisdom. It’s easy to look over your shoulder and say: “I wish I were here,” or, “I wish I could be doing this...”
“No,” she says. It’s more about the Now moment. And the more I’ve come to understand this notion, the more comfortable I feel in my own skin. What follows then are three ways you can bloom right where you are.
Stay in the Now Moment.
Like I said, it’s easy to look over our shoulder at what everyone else is doing. Staying in the Now moment brings us back to the present and helps us find the joy in each day. It’s not hard to do – simply be with what you are doing. Take pride in each step of the day. Staying in the Now challenges us to be the best at our accomplishments and to take stock in the events of each day. When we take inventory of the day’s events, we can expand more on the activities that bring us joy and energy. It also helps us to extract some contentment from even the most mundane tasks. It prevents anxiety when we think that we are exactly where we need to be and life will show us the way if we slow down and act deliberately.
Follow the Serenity Prayer.
The Serenity Prayer states, “God grant me serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference.” What events in our life are in our control? Where can you make a difference? There is wisdom in making the distinction between what we can change and the places in life that we have no control over. Another lesson that my mother taught me – if something is out of your control, let go. This is not to say that we shouldn’t speak up when we feel passionate and the opportunity presents itself, but as the serenity prayer tells us, it’s up to us to find, “The wisdom to know the difference.”
Start Where You Are.
To bloom where you’re planted, you have no other choice but to begin where you are right now. When I lost my job last year, I knew I’d already been waiting too long to write a new book. I had a few ideas that had been hanging around in my hard drive for a while but I never found the right time to get started. So one day, I did it. I put one foot in front of the next and created an outline, then wrote it up one chapter at a time. Before I knew it a new novel was living on my computer and looking for publication. This made me think: Life is like writing a book. First, you put one foot in front of the next then you create an outline. Next, you write it up chapter by chapter and day by day – and before you know it, you’ve created something new.
My mother is a wise woman. She understands that life doesn’t give us what we think it will. But there’s always a gem in the day if we pay attention. “Take pride in everything that you do,” she would have me tell you. From my mom, I’ve learned life is not a race. Instead, it’s all about slowing down and listening to our hearts.
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Is there something in your life that you’ve been resisting? How do you decide when to hold on and when to let go? I’d love to know. If you’d care to share, please leave a comment below. As always, thank you for reading and do consider sharing Body Talk with your friends.
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